Cal finally decided it was time to tell our families our plan to adopt. (I've wanted to for ages).
We went last night and told his parents first. Their reaction was positive, but his dad did bring up every negative adoption story they've ever hear of, in the attempt to make sure we think through what we're doing. His mom remarked that they had said to each other a few months ago that we would be a good candidate to adopt, but that they never would have mentioned it, because it's such a personal decision to make. They also stated that because we're trying to adopt we'll probably get pregnant. Some day I will have to start educating the world - that doesn't always happen, and that absolutely isn't a reason to decide to adopt. I'm trying to make it very clear that this is not our second choice, it's just an alternate choice. We actively made the decision to adopt children instead of trying to conceive biological children.
Next we went to tell my parents. They were also very positive, and my dad said my favorite thing that anyone has said to us so far. He said something along the lines of "More grandkids - excellent!" I LOVE that he is already thinking of them as his grandkids. Cal agreed that he had the best idea of adoption - the other grandparents (including my Mum) seemed to focus on how our family (Caleb, I and Elliott) would be affected - It isn't about us, it's about the kids. My Mum looked pretty happy for us, but also proceeded to discuss the possibility of getting pregnant after adoption. It's funny that those are the first stories that seem to come to people's minds after you mention adoption.
I'm looking forward to the reactions of the rest of our family members. The fact that we're looking at older sibling groups seems to stop people a little in their tracks as well, but in the end each person has told us that if any couple could do it, we would be the couple.
It's so weird to have our little "secret" out in the open, and be able to openly discuss it. It's kind of like how it felt to tell people we were pregnant after the first trimester with our son. Less hysteria this time though, more caution, less cheering haha. I can be excited enough for all of us though. This is where we want to go in life, and I'm pretty pumped about working our way towards our goal of having a large family.
Got an email from the gal in charge of education through AFABC yesterday. She says that they'll be working on the AEP webpage today, in hopes of getting the training registration underway soon. I've checked and it's still not up and running, but I'll be keeping my eyes open for it!
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