We talked to our social worker about trying to begin the homestudy interviews while working on the AEP. She continues to feel that we are not a priority, as in her opinion we are "on track" and our process is progressing "normally". She asked us reasons why we feel we would like the process to go faster than "normal" and we provided a few reasons, one of which being that it will be easier on the family to disrupt the birth order when our biological son is still quite young, as well as the children we are looking into a adopting are sibling groups and typically they bounce around quite frequently (thus gaining all sorts of issues, one of the main being attachment issues). She told us flat out that we should "Stop worrying about the children in care, because they in a safe place being taken care of." Being in ministry care doesn't mean that they are feeling the love of a forever family, or that they feel secure, or even truly that they are safe.
http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/multiple-transitions-a-young-childs-point-of-view-on-foster-care-and-adoption-by-michael-trout.html this is a script from the video that they had us watch in the government mandated education program. IT even says that children in care can be hurt, and that they're confused and don't feel control. How dare she tell us not to think of the children in care. She even told us to "concentrate on ourselves" If any prospective adopting parent took either of these pieces of advice they shouldn't be allowed to adopt. She believes in a system that I see is flawed, so therefore we do not see eye to eye. For these reasons we have decided to explore an option we were never told about. There is ONE adoption agency in BC that can provide a "SAFE" homestudy (The homestudy required to adopt from MCFD). CHOICES Adoption and Counselling Services
http://www.choicesadoption.ca/adoption/waitingchildren.php is this agency. We are currently waiting for a phone call to be returned in regards to whether we would be considered for an exception to their "Birth Order" rule, because we will not be seeking placement through their agency. I thought I'd post this information here for research sake as well!
Birth Order Resources
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