This journal entry was in response to a video about foster care and adoption that we were required to watch:
After viewing the video “Pride – Making a Difference” these are my beliefs:
Vernon’s mother was out-of-control, helpless, and sad. She was unable to be the mother that Vernon needed and in her emotional and physical turmoil neglected and allowed abuse to occur. This isn’t acceptable behaviour for parents. I felt sad for them both, but the termination of her parental rights makes sense.
Vernon’s father had a new family, and knew that he would be unable to raise Vernon, so voluntarily gave up his rights – he appeared nervous that openness would be denied. I do not understand his decision to give up parental rights for this seemingly selfish reason, but it makes me glad he wanted to retain contact with Vernon.
Nathan’s father displayed guilt and relief. His inability to take care of Nathan after a tragic loss is reasonable and his choice to return years later to recommit to his son was brave and commendable.
Both children showed similar feelings toward their parents; they loved them in spite of neglect, self-control issues, and selfishness.
Openness may be hard, but children need to know where they come from. If it will help our children to feel whole, secure, and loved, it will be well worth it. Our future children wouldn’t exist without birth parents – if they have no other redeeming qualities that would be enough.
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